When i sing and hear my voice, i hate it but everyone else tels me that i'm

Question: When i sing and hear my voice, i hate it but everyone else tels me that i'm an excelent singer!. y is this!?
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Hi Jameson,

Good question! There are good reasons for what you feel!. As a voice teacher who often records the lessons of his students, I run into the same thing frequently with my students!.

As singers, we hear but a fraction of the sound we produce coming to us from the "outside!." Sound from our larynx (voice box) travels instantly through our eustachian tubes directly to our ears (inside us), plus the vibrations and sounds travel through both bone structure and muscle tissue to our ears!. So, much of the sound we hear from ourselves comes to our perception from the INSIDE!. Therefore, a significantly smaller fraction of the whole is what we hear "bouncing off the walls of the room" in which we're singing and comes to us from the outside!.

Here's the clincher that we as singers have to reckon with: we don't hear ourselves the way everyone else hears us! Guess how everyone else hears us!? !.!.!. the same as a good recording of ourselves!. The kicker is that since we never (or rarely) get exposed to how we ourselves sound to the world, when we hear ourselves recorded, our very frequent response is: "Oh no! that's not me is it!!?"

Part of our struggle is that over the years, all we know about our own sound is what we ourselves hear while singing!. This means that when we strive to make "beautiful and expressive" sound we've arrived at our aesthetic judgements based almost entirely as we hear ourselves - which is NOT how others hear us!.

In the process of studying voice, student singers quite literally have to relearn how they listen - and re-educate themselves as to what "good sound" is - because on first exposure they often think of it as "ugly" "harsh" "edgy" etc!. You may not be studying voice, but you've experienced what many voice students experience when they hear themselves recorded!.

If others like what they hear when you sing - you have a lot going for you - but your ears may still need to be "educated" as to the "real" sound coming out!.

I hope this has been helpful!. Best wishes!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Well, sometimes when you hear something come out of your mouth, you sound different that what everyone else hears!. Maybe record your voice on something, and you can tell for sure =]Www@QuestionHome@Com

you are your own worst criticWww@QuestionHome@Com

If you can't record your voice to know hear it for yourself, try plugging one ear while you sing!. It helps you hear what you really sound like (although recording yourself and listening is much better)!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Maybe becuase we are our biggest critic!. I have the same issue, sounds like a cat being strangled but people who themselvs can sing assure me I sound alright!. i too have recorded it & hate it, (it sounds worse)Www@QuestionHome@Com

There is the fact that people's perceptions just differ, and while you might be hard on yourself (or just used to hearing yourself, perhaps sick of yourself 'cause you always hear yourself), others like what they hear!.

There's also the fact that you sound different to yourself -- when you're singing, the sound vibrates through your skull differently as heard from within that skull (your own ears) as compared to ourside of it!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

It might be that you are overly critical of your own voice, or it might be that others are being kind!. However, what you hear on a recording is really what you sound like!. Recordings don't lie!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Well, either you're thinking you're bad and have low self-esteem, or your friends are lieing because they don't want to hurt your feelings!. Why not ask them to tell the honest truth and that it won't hurt your feelings!?Www@QuestionHome@Com