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Question:I loved the music and I told her so but I said that the lead singer was out of tune and that they should try and dress up a bit more before going on stage
I gushed enthusiasm about their music - but sent an email saying they should try and improve their visual image and have a word with the lead singer about singing in tune
I reiterated in the email that I loved the music (all original compositions)
She hasn't written back

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: I loved the music and I told her so but I said that the lead singer was out of tune and that they should try and dress up a bit more before going on stage
I gushed enthusiasm about their music - but sent an email saying they should try and improve their visual image and have a word with the lead singer about singing in tune
I reiterated in the email that I loved the music (all original compositions)
She hasn't written back

It's hard to take criticism, speaking as both an artist and a guitarist having to deal with a prima donna lead singer.

I don't think you were out of line - honestly, if the singer was out of tune someone's gotta say something.

I want my friends to be honest with me - I trust them to have my back and tell me when I don't sound good. The more feedback I get, the better I can become.

The whole dressing up thing is a matter of personal preference. I wouldn't have said it the way you probably did, but what's said is said, so let it be. You gave your opinion, and they can either take it or leave it.

Oh yeah, and lead singers are emotional train wrecks, a lot of the time. You can't get some of them to admit it when they're out of tune - they'll deny it to the grave. Still, you've done what you could.

Saul

YEA. Unless they asked you for an evaluation, I would have kept my mouth shut.

Honesty is always the best policy unless constructive criticism is unwelcomed.

i dont think so it is good to be honest.

I suppose you gave your 'advice' because they asked for it right? Even if they asked you how they sounded they probably didn't want you to tear them apart.

I think that I would have said, " I loved the music", which you did as for criticizing the vocals, I don't think that I would have said anything unless asked, such as, " was there anything that you didn't like about the band." You didn't go to critique their music, therefore if it were me I would have said, I loved the music period. If the lead singer is out of tune let someone else tell them, not you a friend..... sooner or later they'll notice on their own, or someone else will say something ...maybe when they hear a tape of themselves playing ....That old adage is so true, especially with friends, " If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything " Do you agree ??? I would e-mail her back and apologize and say that you had no right to critique their work and hope that she accepts. This is just my opinion....others may feel differently !!!!!!!!!!

Closed mouths gather no feet.

Unsolicited criticism often goes unappreciated.

They might not share your fashion sense.

I usually just say, "you were great," and only give detailed criticism if it is asked for it more than once. If they say once, "but what did you really think," I'll still say, "great," but if the next day they still want an honest opinion, only then will I give it.

Musicians are notoriously over-sensitive.

Unsolicited advice is worth what the receiver paid for it.
On the other hand, a musician who can't take criticism is going nowhere fast. Your friend just defined herself as an amateur, retroactively making your critique inappropriate. Oh well, get over it. She will.