On a problem of motivation (lazy!). How have you handled it and what helped? Age

Question:I am so lame, it's pathetic... I am a talented musician and really would love to join a little wedding band and have a part time gig, you know? A very attainable goal. Anyhow the years have been passing and I am feeling worse than ever about my small dream never coming to fruition. Why am I so lame, and what should I do about it? I have always been very lazy. VERY lazy. It is as if I cannot function unless i am in a sink or swim situation, unless I HAVE to function for some reason. (This is not to say that I am on welfare or government aid of any sort, in case you were thinking I was really a scumbag or something! lol) Thank you for your time, and I won't be ticked off if all you can think to say is, "hey get off your *** and stop procrastinating."

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: I am so lame, it's pathetic... I am a talented musician and really would love to join a little wedding band and have a part time gig, you know? A very attainable goal. Anyhow the years have been passing and I am feeling worse than ever about my small dream never coming to fruition. Why am I so lame, and what should I do about it? I have always been very lazy. VERY lazy. It is as if I cannot function unless i am in a sink or swim situation, unless I HAVE to function for some reason. (This is not to say that I am on welfare or government aid of any sort, in case you were thinking I was really a scumbag or something! lol) Thank you for your time, and I won't be ticked off if all you can think to say is, "hey get off your *** and stop procrastinating."

hmmm....I get the same way...stuck in a rut...musically and just with life in general...I find myself doing the same thing over and over again every day, going to work, coming home, falling asleep, going to work, coming home...you get the drift. And it's not even a cycle that I'm happy being stuck in. I don't play violin when I'm stuck in this cycle...it's like all the creativity and motivation are just sucked out of me. I don't really want to do anything outside of my little routine either. Even though I know that getting out and seeing a concert or going some where new will inspire my lazy butt to write some thing amazing. It's just finding the will power to break that cycle and do something diffrent. That's where my muse comes in. Christina is my muse. She's my one friend I can count on no matter once. She's the other half of our two person band. I call her up and tell her I'm stuck and no matter how much I protest or wine or tell her I'm busy she drag's my butt out to open microphone night at Ong King's (a local club) or something similar and get's my butt back into musical gear. Or else I'd be stuck forever. Maybe you need to identify the muse in your life and confess you need help. lol I dont know. That's what works for me.

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you just have to want it bad enough for your happiness.
if you think you are worth it and you want it bad enough youll do it. im exactly like you and until im either failing at something or I am crazy motivated i wont do it.

find something that makes you go for it whatever it is.
ex-dieting think of how great you wanna look this summer in a bikini and how you want to get a guys attention and just keep telling yourself youll never find a guy unless you stick with it.

First of all, check to see if you have depression. Medication and therapy will help. Secondly, try a variety of things until you find something you are passionate about.

Start your own band. It's best to try something and if you don't care for it, go on to something else. It's a law of physics that it's easier to change the direction of a moving object, than to get it moving in the first place.